Basic Training Course
In my lifetime of exploration, adventuring, private investigation, gold prospecting and treasure hunting, if I had to pinpoint any one, single thing that has brought me more success than anything else, I would have to say that it has been the ability to get people to tell me their secrets. Just in the last decade alone, I have discovered a dozen different commercial gold deposits and treasure sites by convincing local Natives to tell me things that they have never told any other outsider before.
How did I do it? How did I convince people to open up to me? The answer is simple and straight forward but, amazingly, not very well-understood by the general public. The answer is… I got people to like and trust me first, before anything else.
In this Basic Training Course about How to Master the Secret Techniques of Persuasion, Seduction & Personal Magnetism, you will learn some great secrets about getting people to like you and to trust you. We are not talking about deceiving anybody here. We are talking about you having all of the basic qualities to be a genuinely likable and trustworthy person.
After you have digested this Basic Training Course, if you would like a much more Advanced Training, please see the detailed information further down on this page. Our Advanced Training is currently being offered for the extremely low, Introductory Price of only $9.85. Yes, you heard me correctly. Why the ridiculously low price you might ask? Please see my reasons near the bottom of this page.
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In my life experience, I have found that there is almost always a direct connection between enjoying success and having a healthy self-esteem. I have found that most successful people have a high self-esteem. Conversely, I have repetitively seen that people with a poor self-esteem have a very difficult time ever finding sustained success during their life.
Developing and having a healthy Self-esteem is the first step to becoming a Masterfully Magnetic person.
What is Self-Esteem? How does self-esteem work?
Check out my friend Billy’s story...
Billy has been in and out of relationships for so long that he is beginning to think that no one is out there for him. No matter how he tried, and no matter what kind of girl he goes steady with, it always ends up with a big bang, and the door is usually slammed at his end.
He has blamed himself for his failed relationships because he was so kind, or nosy, or forgiving, selfless, clingy. You name it; every single bad thing that happened to the relationship was his fault. Up to now, he could not help but wonder what went wrong. He has done everything to make it work but nothing he does seems to make a difference and he still hasn’t found his "Mrs. Right."
At first glance, there is really nothing wrong with Billy, nor with the women in his life. But as you probe into his day to day activities, you realize that Billy looks okay on the outside, but has very low regard for himself on the inside. He seems like an ordinary guy next door but he is actually suffering from what we call low self-esteem.
Self-esteem is how you regard or value yourself in terms of your job, your accomplishments, your relationship with your peers and your family and your place in the society. It is actually the image you have of yourself. Having high self-esteem means you have a high regard for yourself while low self-esteem means you perceive little or no value in yourself.
People with high self-esteem are usually people who are happy and confident. It is not to do with bragging about what you have or your accomplishments, but it is about taking stock of what kind of person you are, given all your facts in life.
Self-esteem is an important trait of every individual because it influences and usually even determines success in your personal life and in your career. Having a high self-esteem means you respect yourself, and it is most often the reason why others respect you.
A person with high self-esteem will do the right thing even if exposed to the wrong set of people. A person who regards himself highly will not follow what other people are doing because he has his own discernment of what is right and wrong.
Self-esteem grows on you, depending on how you were treated as a child. If you were encouraged or praised by your family while growing up, then you will probably have a high self-esteem when you become an adult. However, there are people who may have high self-esteem while growing up, but then later developed a low image of themselves because of certain factors.
Factors that Lower Peoples’ Self-Esteem:
1. Divorce or Separation - A child who grew up in the right environment and with the right kind of people giving him support and encouragement will have a high self-esteem. However, an incident like the divorce or separation of his parents will most likely damage the child's high image of himself, and he could end up blaming himself for the separation. He will then go into a vicious cycle of looking down on himself and of treating others differently because of such an incident.
2. Physical Attributes - A child who is on the chubby side while growing up may be considered as cute by his family and friends and so the frequent encouragement and praise will help him develop high self-esteem. However, as he grows older, his environment changes and then he is exposed to the reality that society generally frowns on people who are on the heavy side. This creates confusion and identity crisis which may lead to self pity and the development of a low self image.
3. Rejection - A child who grew up with supportive parents and siblings will most likely become an adult with a high self-esteem. However, constant exposure to critical people who insult him and criticize him may create a dent in his high self image. His comfort zone is now gone and there is a possibility that he will be rejected by other people who are not so kind or who may have very high standards.
A person's self-esteem will serve as his defense and survival kit against the competitive nature of society. Growing up with a high self-esteem will already be an advantage because such a person already knows his true value. However, he must keep close contact with the people who really matter to him to maintain his self worth, and avoid people who will try to ruin his self image.
Where Does Self-Esteem Come From?
Have you ever criticized, even cursed yourself for doing something wrong? Have you tried torturing yourself by doing a monologue of how silly and stupid you are, and how useless you are to society? If you have been doing this on a regular basis, then you may have a low self-esteem. Self-esteem is the overall image or value you have of yourself, it is how you look at yourself when you look in the mirror. If you look in the mirror and you see a loser who can do nothing more than commit mistakes, then you may have a very low self image.
A person's self-esteem does not come from out of the blue. It is not something you were born with, although it is partly determined by the circumstances into which you were born. It is not manna from heaven and it cannot be bought by money.
Self-esteem is acquired by a person early in life, when he was just a child, starting to recognize faces. He gains a little of it whenever he practices his gait and he gets encouragement from his parents, even if he manages to fumble a couple of times or more. He gains a little more of it as he becomes a toddler and his parents would give him hugs and kisses and tells him he is the their most precious possession.
As the child becomes a teenager, he has more or less developed a certain degree of self-esteem gained from childhood. This degree of self-esteem can be developed if as a teenager, he is recognized for his little achievements, and given a pat in the back and a comforting shoulder whenever he fails.
When this child becomes an adult, his self worth will be determined by the totality of his experiences growing up and the way he was treated by his family and friends. A high self-esteem can serve as his arsenal whenever confronted by damaging criticisms and negative feedback from various people.
What Are the Effects of a Low Self-Esteem?
People who grew up in a very critical environment, where achievements are rarely praised and where faults are given more emphasis will most likely have a very low self-esteem. Among the effects of a low self-esteem are:
1. It can cause anxiety and depression. A person with a low self-esteem is always concerned about pleasing other people. The more he tries to make other people happy, the more he becomes depressed and unsure of himself. And when he becomes unsure of himself, he will take this as a negative attribute, leading to a lesser self-worth. It goes on and on until he does not anymore have a clear view of himself as a person.
2. A low self-esteem can result in a setback in a person's performance in school or his career goals. A person who thinks less of himself will more likely have very low grades. If already working, a person with low self-esteem will experience some difficulty in his career as he could not even perform his ordinary responsibilities well.
3. Lack of self-esteem can create tension in a person's relationship with other people. Because he looks down on himself too much, this person cannot maintain a healthy relationship. He thinks he is lower than everybody else and he is not worth loving.
4. Low self-esteem can lead to dependency problems. Many people who have very low regard for themselves get into drugs because they look at substance abuse as the only way to confirm their existence. Others become alcoholics, opting to become intoxicated rather than confront the difficulty of facing one's self.
People with low self-esteem or low self worth have very little or no self-confidence at all. A single mistake, no matter how small, will always be blown out of proportion. A person with low self-esteem will always blame himself for anything that happens regardless of the factors involved in the incident.
A person who has low self-esteem is fragile and can be easily influenced by people who take advantage of other people's frailty. While self-esteem has its roots in a person's childhood there is still a chance to develop the self worth of adults who treat themselves as lesser mortals. However, it will take an extra effort and determination, as well as a good support group before one can achieve this.
What Are Some of the Signs of a Healthy Self-Esteem? Here are some them:
You are happy with who you are:
People with a healthy self-esteem are people who view themselves as unique yet beautiful. Having a healthy self-esteem will make a person take the notions of the world regarding what’s beautiful or what’s not in a good light. He takes them into consideration but the ultimate basis for his views is his own belief. A person may not be as good-looking or as talented as other people but he will be as happy as he can be.
You are unafraid to take on challenges:
A healthy self-esteem will lead to self-confidence. People with healthy self-esteem are comfortable in trying out new things because they are not afraid to make mistakes and make fools of themselves once in a while. They are aware that there is no perfect person and everybody makes mistakes, so there’s no reason for them to hide their weaknesses. Being unafraid of committing mistakes is a sign of self-acceptance, with an emphasis on one’s weaknesses. This is an important part of self-acceptance and self-appreciation.
You accept mistakes and learn from them:
Another healthy sign of a healthy self-esteem is the acceptance of one’s mistakes and learning from them. A person with a low self-esteem would blame and put himself down continuously for the mistakes that he commits. It is a very unhealthy practice indeed.
There are a lot of factors to consider when making mistakes. Most of the time, these mistakes are brought about by consequences around us. Learning to accept mistakes and learning to learn from is a first step towards loving yourself.
You don’t need to prove yourself to others:
People with healthy self-esteem need not to prove themselves to others people just to find self-worth and to feel accepted. People with low self-esteem tend to be restless in doing things in an effort to impress others. They equate success with self-worth and finding true happiness. There is more tolife than getting a perfect score, shooting every basket and beating everybody else.
Having a healthy self-esteem may not necessarily equate to being happy. It is also possible that a person with a healthy self-esteem is unsatisfied with certain circumstances in his life and this makes him unhappy with the whole picture of his life. However, having a healthy self-esteem is a prerequisite to having true happiness. If one owns the world and lives the life of a king but he views himself as a pathetic loser, do you think he will find happiness from all the material wealth that he has? It is more possible that his material wealth will aggravate his personal insecurities.
So how does one develop a healthy self-esteem? Listed below are some helpful tips into getting self-esteem.
You see the beauty in you:
Self-esteem starts from self-acceptance and self-acceptance is built through seeing one’s strengths and weaknesses. Identifying one’s perceived strengths and weaknesses can be a useful tool in becoming a better person and having a better feeling towards oneself.
You have learned to let go:
Let go of your mistakes and move on. Leave the negative things behind and bring the lessons along on the journey. If one dwells on a mistake too much, it would eventually burn every ounce of self-esteem left in him.
You have learned to stop comparing:
Stop comparing yourself to others. It may be okay to compare yourself to someone else on the descriptive level. You are who you are and let others be themselves.
You have conditioned your inner voice:
The inner voice is the small voice inside your head which usually lowers one’s self-esteem by dwelling on his faults and weaknesses. Speak to yourself in a positive tone. Always use positive remarks and try to leave out the destructive criticisms.
Finding self-esteem is not an easy thing to do. It is a task which cannot be done by anybody else but you. No amount of external intervention can influence someone who doesn’t want self-esteem. Having self-esteem is a conscious choice. It can be one of the hardest things to do but it can also be one of the easiest.
10 Tips to Improving Your Self-Esteem
1) Accept Yourself
People should remember that everyone is unique and beauty is to be found in every human being. Yes, other people can be better in doing certain things but this fact shouldn’t hinder people from being the best that they can be.
Everybody is special and unique. A person’s true worth cannot be seen in only one dimension of his life. For example, people usually envy the rich, thinking that they have everything and thus they are the happiest people in the world. However, the best things in life can never be bought by money. Stories of unhappiness among the rich are everywhere around us and this is a sign that wealth cannot be equated with happiness.
Accepting oneself is different from appreciating oneself. Self-acceptance is a prerequisite to self-appreciation but the latter must always be present. One might accept oneself under a pessimistic light and this is not very healthy. “I accept that I cannot do the things that I really want to do because I am weak” is a sample statement which depicts an unhealthy self-acceptance.
Appreciating oneself under a positive light is a definite self-esteem booster. One must highlight the good things about him and try to reinforce them and be better at those things.
3) Refrain from Comparing
Low self-esteem can be brought by the environment. Again, this can be traced to the lack of self-acceptance. Everybody is different and you have qualities that no other person has. A general sense of self-worth should be built without comparing oneself to other people.
4) Don’t Put Yourself Down
Nobody’s perfect. Making a mistake is definitely normal and people should start accepting this fact. People with low self-esteem tend to put themselves even lower by continuously and harshly putting themselves down. An inner voice which reverberates inside their heads tells them that there is no hope. This should not be the case and having control over the inner voices can be the solution for this problem. Cut yourself some slack, you’ve done your best and that’s what’s important.
5) Befriend Positive People
Having friends who are positive towards dealing with life’s challenges can influence someone into seeing life in the same light and eventually build his self-esteem.
6) Remind Yourself of the Positive Things About You
Again, there is beauty in everyone. Remember all the things that you like about yourself and the good things which you have done and make a list of the most striking ones. This will help in self-appreciation and definitely give you something to smile about.
7) Use Tools
Buying books, CD’s and other materials about building self-esteem wouldn’t hurt, would it? These materials can definitely provide some informative ways on how to deal with low self-esteem. However, buying these materials would be useless if the lessons which they give wouldn’t be applied in real life.
8) Engage in Fun Activities
Having regular fun releases stress, takes the negative ideas out of one’s head and leaves space for positive thoughts to fill in. Having fun makes one feel happy about oneself.
9) Hangout with Friends
Having fun can be done privately but nothing beats fun with friends. Friends are usually a part of the primary support group of a person and can provide much needed conversations for a down-and-out person.
10) Seek Help
When all else fails, seek professional help. There’s nothing wrong with taking care of yourself since low self-esteem can lead to more serious problems. Having low self-esteem can be solved with the right tools and the right attitude. Loving yourself is the ultimate way which leads to a healthy and a better "you."
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